I've been studying relationships my whole life, they are my PASSION.  I used to live in a fantasy land filled with delusion. Not anymore! I can help you find out where you are stuck in old patterns, why you are still miserable, and how to have a better relationship with your current partner.  If you are wanting more of a commitment from your partner, I can help you discover why you are still stuck and teach you how to get the commitment you want and deserve. If you are contemplating a divorce or break-up, I have specific methods to guide you into clarity about the next step. I have over 600 hours of direct sessions with clients and many more hours of trainings and practice sessions.

My container is 100% free of judgment. You can bring anything to me and trust that I won’t punish, criticize or look down on you. Each relationship is unique and you get to decide with your partner what that looks like no matter what others may think.

I’ve worked with all different combinations of partners including LGBTQ, 2nd or 3rd marriages, affair partners, inter-racial, interfaith, large age gaps, Polyamorist, and traditional folks. I’ve had clients in their 80s and as young as 18 (I don’t do youths at this time). As long as you are comfortable with me, I will serve you. I’ve walked many couples through affairs and divorce and death. I’ve seen it all, and love it when I get a chance to experience a new kind of couple.

In the modern world we are filled with more options than ever. That is great…until it isn’t. It’s easier to slip out of a relationship when it gets tough, imagining the grass is will be greener… until you discover, maybe years down the line, that it’s not.* At some point, your garden will need tending to. Most problems will recreate themselves when you start a new relationship. The way to avoid this happening is to face the problem head on. However, it’s important to do this carefully with support as you don’t want to re-open old wounds and have them fester all over again.

I am trained in results based-coaching, interpersonal neurobiology, and understanding the origins of your complex past and how it can undermine your present reality and partnership. I facilitate depth and transformation in a “here and now”, heart-centered way that will leave you feeling inspired to face your challenges and share your heart with that special someone. I am also currently training with the Gottman Institute, specifically for couples work.

I focus on building your relationship in the present moment with real-time results which means you might need to check your grievances at the door. We can’t hold onto the past forever and the only way to change it is to literally do the present moment differently than you did in the past. It’s simple, yet requires some repetition, planning and new perspectives. I will help you with this. We will find ways to confront the pain and confusion and transform it into comfort and happiness.

Pain is a GREAT catalyst for change. Not surprisingly, most people come to see me when they are deep in suffering and desperate for relief. I can’t guarantee that you will feel better with just one session (although you likely will!); I can guarantee that you will have more clarity, empowerment, freedom, and personal responsibility after our work together. Who doesn’t want that?

*When in doubt, please physically remove yourself from any scenario in which there is abuse or violence. Please call 911 or your local extension. Although sometimes it’s okay (and normal!) to feel unsafe, there are times when there truly isn’t anything you can do to save the relationship and it’s best to seek safety immediately. I do my best to suss out perilous situations but it’s you who makes the choice to leave. Better be safe than sorry!